come up or stay back

today was a totally exhausting day for me. and i am really in need of physical, spiritual and emotional recharge. however, i feel so blessed today because i got to spend some quality times with my buddies in uni, and had some great time in skype with someone i miss a lot, and additionally @teracarissa just blessed me with her great tweets, as always.
here are some of her tweets that may bless you too ! :)

You TEACH people how to treat you. if you want my time, you MUST come up to the level of respect i deem acceptable. if not, carry on ! at some point though, you need to kind of look at yourself and ask this question : why am i attracting disrespect? what about ME that says its okay to disrespect me? you need to have some self evaluation. because honestly, if it is not you who stands up for yourself, who else is gonna do you the favor? and if there is one legit lesson that i've learned, that would be to finally admit that i can't change people, no matter how far i sacrifice myself for them, no matter how much of the time i put on them just to try to talk things out. i admit that, the furthest and biggest favor i could ever done to people is just to tell them the truth and love them, there is no way i can change them. because real change has to come from within. i'm glad i finally got this point across through this post. frankly, it took me hell to realize this.

you can't change people, you MUST work on yourself. you are the one who set the requirements and standard for your life.

on the other side of this post, i need to keep in mind what @teracarissa has highlighted that being nice is not the same as allowing someone to mistreat you, mislead you, abuse you or disrespect you. you need to discern the difference. and some of us need to tell ourselves this: i'm raising the level of expectation for MY LIFE. come up or stay back. my requirements are non-negotiable. one more thing worth knowing and remembering is that you're not losing when you cut negative influence out of your life. you're gaining because in fact you're making room for positive ones.

I totally acknowledge the fact that this is one of those easy-to-tell-but-hell-to-do kind of things, and some of you may be in bondage to disrespectful people and your constant acceptance of it tells them that what they are doing is okay, and this is extremely WRONG. one important thing to emphasize is that to NEVER let them feel that they are right, and that they are in control of your self-esteem no matter who they are or who they THINK they are.
finally, learn how to tell people: you are welcomed in my life when you can ACT like you got some senses. if you don't have any, at least ACT.

here's the link to @teracarissa profile, follow her if you want https://twitter.com/teracarissa
but personally, she has blessed me with her tweets and i'm glad i have this wise woman on my timeline ;)
with love, xx